Can you truly mend an old relationship/friendship?
To have the support of people who offer unbiased love is truly a blessing. And to some of us, it turns out to be someone who stands by till the end of the time. Relationships are a tricky business. They drive you nuts almost all the time. A perspective (rather a question) — What is a relationship in its unearthed version? Here comes my selfish answer — a feeling of give and take, which thrives on mutuality. And it’s certainly not wrong for an individual to have this feeling of reciprocity. Of course, the essential nature of an earthling demands them to strive through emotions. The dwelling comes from within though, what works for one person may not work for another. Although we are tiny speckles in this humongous universe we are defined differently and it’s worth mentioning — each of us matter.
Abridging a human experience is the worst crime, because if you snatch that one experience the entire curve of her learning will oscillate on a different tangent. One random human experience taken away can affect or deprive them of a whole another life lesson. And us, unknowingly, when entering someone’s life we sit on the passenger seat of their lives providing instructions for them to follow. The fools will follow. But the ones with true determination will keenly scrape you off. Other mediocre beings will sway back and forth. Not a single one can be stated wrong here for each of them are in for a ride filled with lessons that one rightly deserves.
A mother bird never trusts anyone to be in charge of her nestlings when hunting for food. Because her experience with trust has been unsatisfactory.
If a broken plate is to be mended, it will never have its original finishing back.
It’s plausible for some of us to be broken but to go back to the same old version of ourselves will never happen. Now we’ve outgrown ourselves of that pain and suffering. Some will break others and turn towards forgiveness but do they deserve to be forgiven? In a sudden random strike of decisions, they chose the unforgivable path and now they live in a sea of guilt, expecting to be showered with forgiveness.
In terms of moral values, we’ve been always told to forgive and forget. You opt for this principle only to relieve or redeem yourself of their guilt. The ones who forgive and forget are the ones who can make peace with themselves and others.
But the ones who live in a pit and find it extremely odd and unsatisfactory to forgive someone is why we need to have this tiny talk.
A thousand emotions will gush through you in your mortal life, and a thousand people will swim through these emotions. You will lend some a hand of support and some will lend you one. Your foes will stand there to give a fair fight and some will show cowardliness while they stab you in the back. Some will stick by till the end of time. Finally, in the end, it will be you standing all by yourself looking across for something to hang on to. When you finally leave the ocean to the heavenly gardens, you will remember each and every experience.
You will cherish every experience but the guilt of enmity will strike you hard. Because your suffering defined the other person’s suffering and vice versa. It’s a loop that lasts till eternity until you decide to sit down with your own damn mind and kiss them goodbye with forgiveness. The forgiveness you offer today will not truly mend that one relationship but will put an end to their suffering. And perhaps yours too. The broken relationship is highly unlikely to become what it was but the peace that comes from there will heal you and them. It’s an easy choice but the hardest part comes when you have to implement it. And if you do implement it, the feeling that comes along will truly set you free.
